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15 Things You Need To Know Before You Move to Seattle

[This post, originally published in 2010, has been updated on July 19, 2013. Enjoy!]

Whether you are relocating for the first time to Seattle, or you are moving into the more urban parts of Seattle from a suburb of the Seattle metro area, I am about to give you a Seattle single girl’s guide* of fifteen things you need know before you move to Seattle.

Although I was born and raised primarily in Seattle, I have travelled and lived in its suburbs, in other countries, and in other states. I have a pretty good idea of the considerations the typical person needs to know to make the adjustments to become a happy urban Seattle dweller. It is no secret that I am partial to creature comforts that women like. If you are a man reading this, but there’s a special woman in your life, this short list can be still be helpful.

Fifteen Things You Need To Know Before You Move To Seattle

Parking is expensive in Seattle. Consider living near a bus line or light rail, and purchase covered parking to store a car during the week. You will save more money by taking public transit after purchasing a bus pass than parking your car downtown. [Yes, this is still true even after the price increase of a transit fare. I can now commute from one end of Seattle to Redmond on the same fare as going down the street from the originating bus stop].

When you use GPS and online maps, make sure you enter the correct directions, such as NE, S, SW, N, W. One time, the police came to my home and insisted there was a domestic violence call they received for my address. When I asked them to repeat the address, it was for the exact same number and street name, but not the correct neighborhood because of the directional designations. [BTW, I just inadvertently conducted a test on both Google maps and Apple Maps turn-for-turn GPS, and for a little while, both were entirely wrong in getting me to a destination. Argh. Never drive on a low tank of gas].

There is no really good Chinese food in Seattle. Plan on using your passport and going to Vancouver, BC to get your Chinese food fixe. Still, brush up on using chopsticks, because sushi rules this city even more than pho cafes. [And there are plenty of "bad" sushi places, so do a little research before you head out. One of my current favs is Japonessa Sushi Cocina on 1st and Union].

Purchase three mini umbrellas to prepare for the weather. Place one in your car, your messenger bag, and your office from Fall to Spring (October through July. Really). The rainy season ends typically after the first week of July. Don’t freak out. From mid-July until the first weeks of October, you will likely experience the most beautiful weather without major humidity or the skin-searing factor. Everyone and their grandmother will eat outside in little sidewalk cafes, walk their dogs on the Waterfront, and purchase one bajillion pairs of sunglasses that were lost the previous season.

Count on walking. A lot. If you like wearing boots, consider one with low heels, or a pair of Uggs in the winter. While stilettos are still hot in NYC and LA, it won’t make it up or down one of Seattle’s many brick-and-mortar streets. Someone in an REI jacket will likely laugh at you if you trip. [I was just gifted with a fine pair of durable Keane snow and rain boots. While I sacrifice a bit of fashion chic, I can stomp away through snow, ice, and rain puddles and keep my feet dry on the way to the office, where a nice pair of dress shoes await].

Find out where all the the green spots are within walking distance of your concrete jungle. Looking at green makes people feel more relaxed. If you have the room for it, purchase flowering plants and greenery for your home. [My neighbor just installed a mini greenhouse in his home. It is cooler than cool. If I had one, there would be catnip in it for the kittehs.] Seattle’s Pike Place Market has introduced neighborhood “express” farmer’s markets in Pioneer Square this summer, which includes a stall of fresh cut flowers. Love!

Live near a grocery store and a farmer’s market, if at all possible. If you don’t, you’ll either spend ginormous amounts of money on parking, or you’ll pollute the environment to get your organic greens. [You might want to scope out where the nearest Whole Foods, PCC Market, and Trader Joe's are to get your fruits and veggies during the winter months when some farmer's markets are closed].
If you go to the Eastside, you will run into people who do not know where the major neighborhoods of Ballard, Fremont, Queen Anne, Maple Leaf, or Wallingford are in relationship to each other or downtown Seattle. You might as well tell them these are in France. Some people will never get to know Seattle like you do. [This is still true. If you plan a party and invite co-workers, be aware that some of them will not attend simply because you live across one of Seattle's bridges, even if the distance is less than 30 minutes by car].

There can be traffic at all times of the day, for no reason, or for a sporting event in SODO. The two bridges linking Seattle to the Eastside can become floating parking lots. Carry a copy of the Mariner’s and Seahawks season games, and plan accordingly. Do your best not to whine publicly about the fan mania, because people defend these sports teams like they love their dogs.[Go Sounders! Woot!]

There are more registered dogs per Seattle household than there are children. For some reason, there doesn’t seem to be enough pet services to express the glands of those dogs when you need one. Book ahead.[We're also the home of the ICanHasCheezburger lol cats people, and the Oatmeal, with a book on cats that will leave you crying with laughter. So start liking cats, ok?]

I have spent more time standing on my feet on a bus ride than in any other city in America. On only a couple of occasions have men offered me their seat. More likely, they will look up from their mobile phone after checking in on Foursquare for “Metro bus”, and then ignore you. [I recently wore a spandex unitard under my clothing for New Year's Eve. Turned out this was a very good choice, as some random hand kept trying to make its way up my skirt while riding home on a crowded bus. The hand got nothing but synthetic fiber.]

For all the talk about Seattle being one of the best city’s for online dating, it’s still a small city. Attend a few Social Media events or mixers, and eventually you’ll see all the same people. Break free by joining other groups with eclectic interests outside your normal crowd. [I have since discovered OK Cupid to be a single girl's friend in this city. It is greatly responsible for why I am not single. I am currently engaged. :)].

If you’re prone to the blues because of the rainy weather, plan your winter getaway early. Purchase a light box, or try short sessions at a tanning salon that has higher UVB settings. Talk to your doctor about Vitamin D deficiency. [Phillips has designed a blue light box that contains no UV, and some people are finding that it gives them a nice little "bling" at the beginning of the day].

Seattle has plenty of arts and entertainment to choose from, with small and large theaters, film festivals, concerts, and dancing. If you’re under 40, check out tickets with the Bravo Club of the Seattle Opera. Go online for websites advertising day and evening events, such as Seattle Night Out. We’re home to SubPop for a reason. Oh, and if you have sensitive ears, invest in a pair of custom-fitted musician’s ear plugs, which allow you to hear the music without destroying your ear drums. You can thank me later.

Seattle is a city close to water and mountains. Not an outdoorsy type? I suggest you join a club to become one. There are stores with gently used gear so you can try your hand at it without breaking the bank. Always wanted to try snowboarding? Local ski and boarding resorts have winter deals to fit your budget, including lift ticket and rentals. If you buy your own equipment, you can also purchase wall mounts to show off your equipment like works of art in your home. [Always wanted to try running, biking, or swimming? Seattle boasts all three through triathlete clubs for amateurs to professionals at all distances. I ran my first half marathon in Feb 2013, thanks great trails, running partners, and really supportive people on Social Media who are doing the same. I'll be racing in my first Sprint Triathlon in August 2013].

Got your own suggestions? Send in your comments, and tell us about your Seattle relocation experience.

[BTW, if anyone is interested in a student edition of the above, i.e. you're moving to Seattle to attend one of our universities, community colleges, or advanced degree programs, please email me offline about creating a post just for you. Edited Jan 11, 2013]

*I wrote this post when I was single. That is no longer true. I have grown by one cat (Loomi) and one Man-Geek.


Watch This

Warning: there is no video in this blogpost. None whatsoever. Nada. Zip.

As I am about to move into an art space, I’ve been thinking about what I’d like to show you in the next few weeks. The first time I heard of someone aiming a camera on herself 24/7 for others to see, it was in the context of inviting a primarily male audience to watch her in various states of dress (erm, rather, undress). I never watched, but read an article about her, and never thought of her again.

Until now.

As an artist, and as an Asian artist at that, I rarely say the word, “No.” Our language has ways around that word. A former Jewish boyfriend once told me that the word, “No” (lo) in Hebrew was not a word he wished his girlfriend to learn. Fortunately for me, I had already studied two years of Hebrew, so that decision wasn’t even his choice! Still, boyfriend or not, I recognize that I don’t use the word “no” with much frequency.

While I never said no to the idea of getting in front of a camera and livestreaming my movements, I must say that I’ve had certain reservations about it, and not just because the origins of livestreaming seem entwined with the idea of people taking their clothes off (or as in the now dead world of “Chat Roulette”, exposing male genitalia randomly). The idea of livestreaming for long periods of time makes me squirm because it’s what you do when your clothes are on that is far more interesting. Let me explain.

I guess because I’ve been a nurse and a psychotherapist, I’ve seen more naked bodies and more naked souls than I can count or care to recount for you, so seeing nudity just isn’t all that novel. The human body can be a beautiful and a strange thing, especially when you’ve seen body parts removed, legs separated from torsos, grossly obese bodies and starved bodies with little more than a hospital gown on. As a dancer, I’ve bared my soul on stage in ways that are just as striking as if I had walked into a board room and shed my suit. Yet, I can’t say I’ve ever done what I’m about to do: purchase a place on my own, reconstruct parts of it, invite the world to see the process, and turn it into a business that works for me and for my community. It’s just something I think I expect men to do, but not a cute Asian woman who bellydances and comforts people’s souls. In fact, the whole process calls into question my beliefs about what we perceive as male and female. If you didn’t notice, everything but everything is engendered.

In the next days, the clothes are coming off. Not the clothes that I wear on my body, but the clothes we hide behind in terms of perception, fear, expectation, pressure. I am what I am: a girly girl who likes nice things and soft living, but also has seen the world and doesn’t expect everything to be handed to her on a silver platter. The silver platter comes with a price tag I’m not willing to pay. Those who are must play the politics involved.

Instead, watch this. Watch what happens when artists stick to their true voices and passions, and friends offer their help and support. Watch me as I come unglued because you brought your presence to my doorstep (and put up with the old-building smell of the hallways of a very old warehouse building — I swear, it’s worse than the men’s locker room at certain points), and your presence is gift enough. Watch us as I serve you champagne in my ordinary stemware, but notice that it always tastes sweeter than the glass poured at some stuffy event where people treat you like a piece of dirt on their shoe.

You won’t be watching lifestyles of the rich and famous. If you want that kind of programing, you can definitely find that on TV. Instead, if you check in to my livestream, you’ll be watching yourself, cheering for yourself, grieving for yourself, getting angry and laughing outloud. You’ll get to consider what you’d do, how you’d take this all in, what choices you’d make. And through that we all grow, even if vicariously. That’s how this works. That’s the essence of relationship, even through the wires of the digital superhighway.

Once my Internet connection is secured, I’ll be livestreaming seven days a week, and working the stream time up to 8 am to 8pm (24/7 as I get more equipment), to allow you a glimpse into the artist’s life. I’m not worried that it may not be of interest to some people; living the artist’s life isn’t for everyone. For those who have always wondered, it’s definitely an adventure! You can watch the livestream by clicking on the link. Later, I will have the livestream embeded on this blog.

The goal for me isn’t having the most viewers. I think there’s enough fun things to watch these days than to shoot for taking more of your attention. The goal is to give you a slice of life in case you’ve ever wanted to know what it’s like to live like an artist, or if you’ve ever had the guts to try something different in life.

Welcome.

And for the stupid trolls who come onto the stream and ask if I’ll take off my shirt or show my bare legs, my message to you: since it’s on your mind, you first.


Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow

Just before going to Studio 904 to donate my hair to WigsForKids.org, I stopped in for lunch at Pho Fuchia, a new pho shop across from my office. Slammed with customers and one chef down, my meal came to me 20 minutes after ordering, leaving me no time to eat it before I had to leave for my hair appointment. My hair, flowing around my lower ribs, was a wild and wonderful mess of curls; which “they” apologized to the server, and fled the building.

Two hours later, I returned to Pho Fuchia, reordering the lunch they had to waste. One of the waitresses looked at me hard, then said, “Wait, didn’t you have long hair a few hours ago?” I showed her the bag of hair, ready to mail to Wigs For Kids, and she teared up.

Rubberbands secure the hair for shipping

“Can you give me the address so I can donate my hair too?” she asked. A year ago, her mother passed away from cancer, and she had been looking for a way she could honor her mother’s memory.

It’s only been a few hours, and though I feel lighter and freer, there is a loss in cutting off what feels like a woman’s pride to grow her hair long. Still, I will tell anyone who can grow their hair for the minimum 12 inches required, it is a deep honor to be able to do something like this. I hope you’ll join me if you can, or send a donation to WigsforKids.org. [Addendum: I have raised four people who have committed to doing the same thing. Will you join us? Email me at [email protected], or leave a comment below, and I will give you support to help you change someone else's life, helping a child be him or herself with confidence].


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Do you like world cuisine? How about world dance? Wine and noms?

I created #SeattleWorldEats for Twtvite.com, so locals could find out where I'm dancing, producing world dance shows hosted in restaurants and venues serving exotic food, or catching Hips For Hire branded events around town featuring the delicious cuisine and wine.

Next Seattle World Eats events:

June 30 2012 7:30 pm Bellydancing with Imei
Costas Opa in Fremont/ Seattle (I will have some special guests with me that evening, so come and join us)

July 2012 Spiro's (scheduled TBA soon)

July 15, 2012 Redmond Derby Days 5K Dash
http://redmondderbydays.com/5kDerbyDash/
Benefits American Pancreatic Cancer Society

July 21-22, 2012 25th Annual Mediterranean Fantasy Festival
http://babylonianensemble.com/
This is the first year in eight that I have decided to not perform, as I am currently on an aggressive book writing schedule. However, I'll probably peek my head to see the a few friends bellydance.

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