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15 Things You Need To Know Before You Move to Seattle
[This post, originally published in 2010, has been updated on July 19, 2013. Enjoy!]
Whether you are relocating for the first time to Seattle, or you are moving into the more urban parts of Seattle from a suburb of the Seattle metro area, I am about to give you a Seattle single girl’s guide* of fifteen things you need know before you move to Seattle.
Although I was born and raised primarily in Seattle, I have travelled and lived in its suburbs, in other countries, and in other states. I have a pretty good idea of the considerations the typical person needs to know to make the adjustments to become a happy urban Seattle dweller. It is no secret that I am partial to creature comforts that women like. If you are a man reading this, but there’s a special woman in your life, this short list can be still be helpful.
Fifteen Things You Need To Know Before You Move To Seattle
Parking is expensive in Seattle. Consider living near a bus line or light rail, and purchase covered parking to store a car during the week. You will save more money by taking public transit after purchasing a bus pass than parking your car downtown. [Yes, this is still true even after the price increase of a transit fare. I can now commute from one end of Seattle to Redmond on the same fare as going down the street from the originating bus stop].
When you use GPS and online maps, make sure you enter the correct directions, such as NE, S, SW, N, W. One time, the police came to my home and insisted there was a domestic violence call they received for my address. When I asked them to repeat the address, it was for the exact same number and street name, but not the correct neighborhood because of the directional designations. [BTW, I just inadvertently conducted a test on both Google maps and Apple Maps turn-for-turn GPS, and for a little while, both were entirely wrong in getting me to a destination. Argh. Never drive on a low tank of gas].
There is no really good Chinese food in Seattle. Plan on using your passport and going to Vancouver, BC to get your Chinese food fixe. Still, brush up on using chopsticks, because sushi rules this city even more than pho cafes. [And there are plenty of "bad" sushi places, so do a little research before you head out. One of my current favs is Japonessa Sushi Cocina on 1st and Union].
Purchase three mini umbrellas to prepare for the weather. Place one in your car, your messenger bag, and your office from Fall to Spring (October through July. Really). The rainy season ends typically after the first week of July. Don’t freak out. From mid-July until the first weeks of October, you will likely experience the most beautiful weather without major humidity or the skin-searing factor. Everyone and their grandmother will eat outside in little sidewalk cafes, walk their dogs on the Waterfront, and purchase one bajillion pairs of sunglasses that were lost the previous season.
Count on walking. A lot. If you like wearing boots, consider one with low heels, or a pair of Uggs in the winter. While stilettos are still hot in NYC and LA, it won’t make it up or down one of Seattle’s many brick-and-mortar streets. Someone in an REI jacket will likely laugh at you if you trip. [I was just gifted with a fine pair of durable Keane snow and rain boots. While I sacrifice a bit of fashion chic, I can stomp away through snow, ice, and rain puddles and keep my feet dry on the way to the office, where a nice pair of dress shoes await].
Find out where all the the green spots are within walking distance of your concrete jungle. Looking at green makes people feel more relaxed. If you have the room for it, purchase flowering plants and greenery for your home. [My neighbor just installed a mini greenhouse in his home. It is cooler than cool. If I had one, there would be catnip in it for the kittehs.] Seattle’s Pike Place Market has introduced neighborhood “express” farmer’s markets in Pioneer Square this summer, which includes a stall of fresh cut flowers. Love!
Live near a grocery store and a farmer’s market, if at all possible. If you don’t, you’ll either spend ginormous amounts of money on parking, or you’ll pollute the environment to get your organic greens. [You might want to scope out where the nearest Whole Foods, PCC Market, and Trader Joe's are to get your fruits and veggies during the winter months when some farmer's markets are closed].
If you go to the Eastside, you will run into people who do not know where the major neighborhoods of Ballard, Fremont, Queen Anne, Maple Leaf, or Wallingford are in relationship to each other or downtown Seattle. You might as well tell them these are in France. Some people will never get to know Seattle like you do. [This is still true. If you plan a party and invite co-workers, be aware that some of them will not attend simply because you live across one of Seattle's bridges, even if the distance is less than 30 minutes by car].
There can be traffic at all times of the day, for no reason, or for a sporting event in SODO. The two bridges linking Seattle to the Eastside can become floating parking lots. Carry a copy of the Mariner’s and Seahawks season games, and plan accordingly. Do your best not to whine publicly about the fan mania, because people defend these sports teams like they love their dogs.[Go Sounders! Woot!]
There are more registered dogs per Seattle household than there are children. For some reason, there doesn’t seem to be enough pet services to express the glands of those dogs when you need one. Book ahead.[We're also the home of the ICanHasCheezburger lol cats people, and the Oatmeal, with a book on cats that will leave you crying with laughter. So start liking cats, ok?]
I have spent more time standing on my feet on a bus ride than in any other city in America. On only a couple of occasions have men offered me their seat. More likely, they will look up from their mobile phone after checking in on Foursquare for “Metro bus”, and then ignore you. [I recently wore a spandex unitard under my clothing for New Year's Eve. Turned out this was a very good choice, as some random hand kept trying to make its way up my skirt while riding home on a crowded bus. The hand got nothing but synthetic fiber.]
For all the talk about Seattle being one of the best city’s for online dating, it’s still a small city. Attend a few Social Media events or mixers, and eventually you’ll see all the same people. Break free by joining other groups with eclectic interests outside your normal crowd. [I have since discovered OK Cupid to be a single girl's friend in this city. It is greatly responsible for why I am not single. I am currently engaged. :)].
If you’re prone to the blues because of the rainy weather, plan your winter getaway early. Purchase a light box, or try short sessions at a tanning salon that has higher UVB settings. Talk to your doctor about Vitamin D deficiency. [Phillips has designed a blue light box that contains no UV, and some people are finding that it gives them a nice little "bling" at the beginning of the day].
Seattle has plenty of arts and entertainment to choose from, with small and large theaters, film festivals, concerts, and dancing. If you’re under 40, check out tickets with the Bravo Club of the Seattle Opera. Go online for websites advertising day and evening events, such as Seattle Night Out. We’re home to SubPop for a reason. Oh, and if you have sensitive ears, invest in a pair of custom-fitted musician’s ear plugs, which allow you to hear the music without destroying your ear drums. You can thank me later.
Seattle is a city close to water and mountains. Not an outdoorsy type? I suggest you join a club to become one. There are stores with gently used gear so you can try your hand at it without breaking the bank. Always wanted to try snowboarding? Local ski and boarding resorts have winter deals to fit your budget, including lift ticket and rentals. If you buy your own equipment, you can also purchase wall mounts to show off your equipment like works of art in your home. [Always wanted to try running, biking, or swimming? Seattle boasts all three through triathlete clubs for amateurs to professionals at all distances. I ran my first half marathon in Feb 2013, thanks great trails, running partners, and really supportive people on Social Media who are doing the same. I'll be racing in my first Sprint Triathlon in August 2013].
Got your own suggestions? Send in your comments, and tell us about your Seattle relocation experience.
[BTW, if anyone is interested in a student edition of the above, i.e. you're moving to Seattle to attend one of our universities, community colleges, or advanced degree programs, please email me offline about creating a post just for you. Edited Jan 11, 2013]
*I wrote this post when I was single. That is no longer true. I have grown by one cat (Loomi) and one Man-Geek.
Size Up Women and Spending
Congratulations! If you are a man, you are about to read something that can help you understand your wife, female friends or co-workers, or the developing spending habits of daughter and her friends. If you’re a woman, you’re about to read something that is both humorous and potentially tragic about the way many women size up their spending habits.
In the last six months, I’ve had the chance to visit the homes of a number of single guys and observe the way they live. I have a working theory to share with you:
The longer a man is single, and the more money he earns, the larger his television and the smaller his car.
If you know of a man between the ages of 37 and 50 who lives alone, measure the diameter of his last television screen purchased, and see if it isn’t any smaller than 36 inches. If it is, ask him if he watches television at his guy friend’s home, or at the local sports bar.
Now that you’ve had a few laughs, fill in the same equation, only for a woman:
The longer a woman is single, and the more money she earns, the larger her __________________ and the smaller her ____________________.
What would you say should go in the two blank spaces above? Here are a few thoughts that come to mind:
The larger her
shoe collection
designer bag collection
clothes closet
backside
breast implants
dog
wine collection
The smaller her
time
television
turkey at Thanksgiving
beer collection
Lately, my artistic soul has been paying attention to the transition from being with someone to living alone. So what spending trends do women turn to as a single? When I think about the mountains of clothes, shoes, bags, and things they collect, as well as an appetite for life that often grows out of control, I see how I am NOT one of those women. I wear a pair of shoes out before I buy another pair. I have three pairs of jeans, and as of today, I realize they ALL have holes in them somewhere [note to self: I will buy a new pair of jeans before Christmas]. I’m just not that kind of shopping girl. I wonder if I’m fated to do what men do: instead of clothes and shoes, it’s purchasing tech toys and electronics.
Black Friday and Cyber Monday used to be events that I paid some attention to but didn’t really participate in actively. When you are with someone, strangely you can become content with very little, as you have each other. When you are single, you simply have yourself to contend with. The self that I deal with loves to be connected to the outer world to transform my inner world. Thus, my new life must have the tools to do the connecting. I am long overdue for some upgrades.
The reality for women, however, is that we’re not expected to be all that savvy about electronics and technology, or how these shape our lives. Just watch an episode of The Millionaire Matchmaker, and you’ll see the prospective dates being coached on hair blowouts, what clothes and shoes to wear, and how to make themselves physically or socially more attractive to the millionaire. There is zero talk about technology or financial responsibility, other than the millionaire has those, and the date does not.
After reading The Daily Worth, a blog about teaching women how to be financially savvy and responsible, I’ve noticed a pattern. Many of the women telling their stories about spending habits talk about how they got into debt as they spend for things they don’t need, and they fail to pay off their debt as time goes along. Similarly, they fail to invest their money for things that will truly change the way they live, and they fall prey to spending on short-lived pleasures that have no real investment value in the quality of their life. Finally, some spent with the belief that their man was better with money, only to find out he was part of the problem. As one bumper sticker poignantly stated, “A man is not a financial plan. www.wife.org“.
Just recently, an online reseller of high-end dance costumes contacted me about a costume she has been unable to sell. While the costume is gorgeous and worth every penny, women aren’t buying right now. I wrote an email to the seller to tell her of my interest in the costume, and my desire to sell a costume of mine in order to purchase hers, even though I could purchase her costume outright. She said, “You are the last person on earth who has any kind of financial self control! i am so inspired by you!!!”
While the costume could bring me great joy while I dance in it (and I gotta tell you, it is hotter than hot!), I can also put that money towards a piece of technology, online education, a tech conference that connects me with others, a large screen television for playing back dance video and teaching myself and students new choreography, or equipment that can help me host more people in my new gallery/studio/home. While I’d love to be in that costume right now, I’ve decided I have to wait until I sell one of my other costumes to make room, because compared to these other spends, a costume doesn’t size up the same way these other spends do in terms of giving back to me.
This Black Friday, I will likely be shopping. While it’s not the exciting shopping of shoes, bags, or clothes that women typically enjoy, I believe you’ll see a big smile on my face as I clothe my life with the things that help me reach out to you with who I am as an artist and a lover of life. Instead of Neiman Marcus, it’ll be Best Buy. Instead of wearing a Bella, I’ll be pushing a Dyson in order to keep a clean and pet-fur free home. I may not be strutting around in Jimmy Choo’s, but I will be bringing you all my best with the kind of professionalism the local community has inspired me to provide.
Ready? Set? Shop!
iPad Therefore iDance
At the end of April 2010, I bought my iPad and joined the millions of early adopters of this amazing product. The large screen on the iPad retired my MacBook to a desktop (using a Kensington laptop expansion dock and a Apple Wireless Keyboard on a tray), and the iPad became my daily traveling companion. I was already a satisfied customer.
Then Rana June Sobhany exploded onto the scene as an iPad DJ and producer, and I got a glimpse into the future about what my purchase had done for my music and dance life. I watched a video of her talking about some of the latest apps for iPad, and with the help of a generous iTunes gift card from my brother for my birthday, I went to town and bought them all.
Here’s a sample of her work, “Solace”, composed on an iPad and filmed with an iPhone4.
Though I rarely dance in nightclubs anymore, you might see me getting up and dancing spontaneously when Rana works her magic. You can check out Rana’s “Destroy The Silence” project for yourself. She’s been written up in for Mashable, Fast Company, and other technology zines for bridging the gap between pop culture, technology, and Social Media.
But wait! There’s more!
Reza Malayeri and I are hosting Rana at PNK Ultra Lounge on October 28, 2010 starting at 7 pm for an exciting evening, combining affordable home decor with decadent belly dance entertainment, food, and wine, with a partial benefit to the Susan G. Komen Foundation as a part of Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Here is your chance to see Rana June in person! PNK is the perfect setting.
For more information about attending this event in person or online, visit our Facebook page “http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=168272506518894″, and be sure to click on the Eventbrite page if you want to enter a random raffle drawing for a hand-knotted rug from Authentic Rug Gallery.
If you represent a small business, contact us about getting your company on our Twitter wall for the event, which will also be livestreamed on http://www.Ustream.tv/channel/hipsforhire on the evening of our event.
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